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February/March 2014

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HAVE AN ORGASM OF THE HEART I n her book e Orgasmic Eff ect, Tatiana Perera shares the art of the full-body orgasm and heart-centered living. "When I work with clients, the whole reason they come to me is they are disconnected from their heart," shares Perera. "All of them are shut down, so they can't experience a climax properly. e orgasm is in the heart." Here are Perera's top tips for reconnecting to that powerful heart space: • Tap into your "feel-good feeling." Awe, wonder and amazement—they're all conduits to connecting to sexual energy. "It's about fi nding something that will give you that intense 'wow' feeling—not from the genitals, but from the heart," says Perera. " e feeling you get from an amazing scuba dive, a walk in the park, a beautiful sunset, a Sunday a ernoon drive with a loved one." • Identify what's blocking you. Whether it's high stress, obesity or emotional duress, it's important to examine and address what's holding you back before moving forward. "Just as a doctor would do, we identify where it hurts," says Perera of her work with clients. "For those people to get an orgasmic feeling, it's a struggle, so we have to give them an appropriate inroad to access it—whether doing yoga, eating more energy foods or practicing stress release techniques." • Meditate. Perera recommends deep meditation at least an hour several times a week to activate what she calls the "internal rejuvenator," or divine presence within. She adds that doing charity work or selfl ess acts can also awaken this energy. "When you connect to the internal rejuvenator, you're connecting to pure energy that's unencumbered by thought, emotion or need," says Perera. "To get to it is the orgasmic eff ect." —JJD my relationships," shares Miss Scarlett. "Part of the enjoyment for me personally is getting to explore emotions; I'm not a writer or a singer, and dance is my expressive thing." OUT OF THE POLY CLOSET: MORGAN AND LEGEND FITZ GIBBON L egend Fitz Gibbon needed some ideas for surprising his wife Morgan with a train trip to Seattle on New Year's Day, so who did he consult? Her other partner, Daniel. As part of their polyamorous relationship, the three practice communal living in what Morgan calls an "eight-person pod" between two neighboring Portland houses with their two children, a woman named Lisa and her son, and Morgan's mom. "We're a family of choice," explains Morgan. e Fitz Gibbons fi rst met in 2007 at a pagan ritual in the San Fernando Valley, back when they both lived in Los Angeles. At the time, Morgan was in a diff erent open marriage (they divorced shortly a er) and Legend was dating in a large polyamorous circle. e two forged a lasting connection almost immediately, a new experience for Legend. "He hadn't had a serious, long-term committed relationship before me," explains Morgan. Since then they've carried on a long-term, non- monogamous relationship, which Morgan describes as including "casual sexual relationships with no sort of emotional attachment;" only recently have they started to delve into a more polyamorous dynamic. Last year they married at Portland's Burning Man-esque SOAK event, and Legend took Morgan's last name. (She'd also been the one to propose, during a horseback-riding trip in Griffi th Park.) Currently Morgan has two male partners and one female partner, while Legend isn't seeing anyone else. For him, it's simply the freedom to do so that he craves: "I wouldn't even be married if we didn't go into it being open." Morgan agrees. "I'm a bisexual person with a variety of interests," he says. "I don't know that one person could provide everything I need." e rules are somewhat simple: no one else in their bed; "veto power" over potential new partners; eff ective time management so no one feels neglected; and managing jealousy in a healthy manner. For them, any drawbacks are far outweighed by the benefi ts. "Having other partners energizes me when I see her again—it just makes you really horny," says Legend. "It's also made me more compassionate and communicative." For Morgan, it's helped her fi nd her professional calling, as she now counsels others in polyamorous relationships for a living. And according to Morgan and Legend, they're not alone. Says Morgan, " e poly closet is a big place, but there are a lot of people in it." february/march 2014 25 WLT-FEB-MAR-1-30.indd 25 1/30/14 1:10 AM

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