Whole Life Magazine

June/July 2013

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"Our senses are enhanced and everything is more vibrant, so what better time to refocus on sexual intimacy?" and silly vacation play with dominoes, which is enough of a game of chance that the zeal to win is replaced by the desire to play. Leaving the dominoes out on the table as we did when we were away brought back some of that vacation feel weeks later. Bringing home what is fun or even ridiculous can translate into less stress on the most challenging days. One of the most transformative aspects of vacation is the way we come to live more deeply in our own flesh as we become more physically active and present to the world we temporarily inhabit. Time slows because we're giving our full attention to the moment, seeing new places with eyes wide open. Our senses are enhanced and everything is more vibrant, so what better time to refocus on sexual intimacy? Living deeply in the body, open to new places, smells, tastes and sights is the perfect precursor to accessing new freedom and curiosity about your sex life. For many, orgasms come more readily on vacation, because performance anxiety is replaced with hunger and curiosity. Experimenting with new sexual behaviors can be easier in an unfamiliar, exotic location, and the sense of endless time that long vacation days hold often extends the time you spend making love without your even noticing it. Lovemaking away from home can be delightfully surprising—you can sense and savor familiar gestures in a new way, or be emboldened to ask for something you've desired but hesitated to express. What you discover can continue to inform your lovemaking when you return. To keep juicy sexy feelings flowing back in your "real life," it helps to practice appreciation. Noticing good moments and small gestures, and expressing gratitude for ways you feel connected and loved can extend vacation glow for months after your return. Something as seemingly insignificant as a thank you for hanging up a wet towel can make someone you love feel seen and acknowledged, and actually telling your beloved, "I so appreciate when you really hear me," are sustainable behaviors that help carry vacation thinking into long-term intimacy. Wendy Strgar, writer, teacher and loveologist, is the founder and CEO at Good Clean Love, makers of Almost Naked 95 percent-organic lubricant. june / july 2013 FINAL REDESIGN WLT-5-27-11pm.indd 17 17 5/28/13 11:11 AM

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